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furosemid 40 kaufen ohne rezept Comprar Zyban buy tadacip online uk When I rounded on tearful mums asking for a bottle for their baby in the postnatal ward I rebuffed their complaints and questions about breast feeding with the stock answers we’d been given by the lactation consultants: “You need to feed on demand”; “Sleep when your baby sleeps”; “Your breasts will make as much milk as your baby needs”; “ It’s not sore if you do it right, if your attachment is right”. accutane ohne rezept Cytotec (Misoprostol) Kaufen Acheter Cytotec (Misoprostol)

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clomid kaufen I don’t care whether someone chooses to formula-feed or breastfeed their child, but I do care about those who aren’t getting a choice. Because switching to formula before you want to isn’t a choice. So why do we persist in framing it as such? Why does the media persist in framing the discussion in terms of “breastfeeders vs. formula-feeders”, as though there are two distinct camps both determined in their feeding preferences? Framing the discussion in that way is failing all of the women who really didn’t get a choice. But of course, it’s far easier to rile up your readers and generate interest by painting a picture of “bullying breastfeeding hippies vs. regular people who just want to feed their babies” rather than discussing the real issue, which to my mind is “Why are so many women – maybe as many as 90% of those who want to breastfeed – switching to formula before they want to?”

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    • Thanks Michelle. Hope all is going well with you! Must catch up soon and hear all about life with a newborn! :)

  1. Spot on Lisa! My baby was eight months old before I actually read that “baby’s second night” was a “thing”. If only I had known in advance. My baby’s second night was a really frightening experience. We were at home with a screaming baby who wanted to do nothing but feed, feed, feed and I felt I couldn’t satisfy him and I was convinced he was turning me into a “soother” because of an off the cuff remark a midwife had made to me. It was really awful!
    Why, why, why don’t they take you aside at the end of your pregnancy and say “listen! baby’s second night – this is what is going to happen and it’s fine.”? I’d say that small piece of advice alone would ease the anxiety of thousands of new mothers.
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    • Exactly! Seems like it would be such an easy thing to explain!

  2. Great post.
    I breastfed my first with very few problems, within two weeks we were flying along. The first few days in hospital my life was made easier by a wonderful midwife who had breastfed her kids. She cup fed my baby occasionaly to give me a rest, even took the baby away for a few hours to let me sleep and gave me advice on feeding.
    Second baby was a different story. A big feeder who drained me dry and kept going. In the first few days I was shot down for asking, through my tears and bleeding, for a cup feed to give me a break and fill her up. None of the midwives were any help- told me I was doing it all wrong and it “wont hurt when you are doing it right”. Worst of all was the “lactation consultant” who had no kids and was going by the book. 6 days later I gave up and started on bottles and the guilt trip.
    If it was now, I would have asked my OH to go out and buy formula and I would have cup fed her myself but I didnt realise then that feeding babies could be so different.
    Its important to remember its your baby, you can feed it however you want, bottle or breast or both. And you are so right when you say we need experienced people giving advice and assistance.
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    • One of the things I’m relying on this time around is that different babies feed differently!! If this new baby refuses to latch at first and then latches badly, I honestly don’t know if I could do it all again, with a toddler to take care of as well this time.

      I am hoping to be as prepared as possible. But mainly I am hoping that the baby is just a good feeder!!

  3. Great post! I agree with you that mums need to be making informed choices but it is difficult with health professionals stretched. Just read your comment above and if it helps my 2nd was a zillion times easier to feed than my first. I think the key was that the 2nd time you know what to do (you were both learning the first time around!) and so are more confident with latching on etc. You can use the feeding time to have special moments with your toddler reading or doing sticker books. That helped us anyway! x
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    • I’m really hoping that’s the case Louise. I’m certainly doing everything I can to inform myself this time around – my sister in law loaned me Dr Jack Newman’s book and I’ve been reading it for the past few days. It answers so many of the questions I had about what went wrong last time around and how we could have fixed it.

      Hopefully though I’ll just get one of those easy babies who latches no problem and feeds brilliantly! :)

  4. Hi Lisa, I enjoyed reading your post you make a lot of good points. I think there are lots of similarities in the UK. Hopefully things will be easier this time around. Good luck.
    Keira x
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  5. I have breastfed my son for the past year and easy it was not. But as opposed to your story my first few weeks feeding were a dream, he latched on well,gained plenty of weight and there were no bleeding nipples!! Our problems began at around 5 weeks when colic/reflux kicked in. I often felt unable to satisfy his feeding needs and because of the colic I was reluctant to give him formula. I was drained; literally. I also felt very alone as none of my friends or family around me had breastfed for any length of time so even though I had plenty of support, the help and and advice that I needed just wasn’t there. The well meaning advice from my female relations was “just give him a bottle” I persisted with the feeding and I did supplement with formula at times, mostly to rule out hunger as the source of his crying. A year on and i am proud of my achievement. But I still feel like a bit of a hippie for breastfeeding long term. I can see the horror in people’s eyes when they learn I’m still feeding my son myself. Breastfeeding is just not conducive to our busy modern lives, the goal seems to be to have a robot baby that sleeps and eats on a perfectly worked out schedule. Baby seems to have to fit in around our lives rather than our lives changing to meet the needs of this new life. Breastfeeding is tough going and I have to say I have a love/hate relationship with it, but if you asked me am I ready to wean my son yet I would have to say no as I see the comfort it gives him and the bond that it gives us aside from the health benefits for both of us.

    • I think you’re right Cara. People’s expectations of how babies should behave have become very prescriptive. I remember reading lots of books about scheduling babies before Little Man was born and planning how I would organise our day… I laugh now looking back at it because I’ve come to believe that those books should come with a disclaimer at the beginning “please note, your baby has not read this book, and the author has not met your baby.” Certainly life, and unsolicited advice, would be a lot easier if people had realistic expectations for how many babies behave.

  6. Breastfeeding is a choice for those who choose to do so, and they should receive all the support they need/want. I chose not to breastfeed all of my three children, and don’t have any regrets.
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    • But if 90% of those who want to breastfeed end up switching to formula before they want to, then surely it’s not a choice?

  7. I completely agree with you, I really wanted to breastfeed but I just couldn’t get it to work. I ended up exclusively expressing for both my girls. It broke my heart. All the time in the hospital I was told my inverted nipples were no obstacle to breastfeeding and yet no midwife ever successfully helped my babies to latch.
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