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		<title>Comment on Who&#8217;s my Daddy? by Lisa &#124; Mama.ie</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lisa &#124; Mama.ie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 May 2012 06:26:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The current system just seems so deeply flawed to me Caitriona. I cannot imagine how I would feel if someone told me I had to apply for guardianship of my own son. Thanks for your comment.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The current system just seems so deeply flawed to me Caitriona. I cannot imagine how I would feel if someone told me I had to apply for guardianship of my own son. Thanks for your comment.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Who&#8217;s my Daddy? by Caítríona</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/whos-my-daddy/#comment-2571</link>
		<dc:creator>Caítríona</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 May 2012 03:46:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great blogpost. At present whether or not his name is on the birth cert a father has to apply for guardianship of his child. This right (of the child &amp; father) is automatic for the mother. Father&#039;s rights are important but it is far more important to recognise children&#039;s rights.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great blogpost. At present whether or not his name is on the birth cert a father has to apply for guardianship of his child. This right (of the child &amp; father) is automatic for the mother. Father&#8217;s rights are important but it is far more important to recognise children&#8217;s rights.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Who&#8217;s my Daddy? by Emma</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/whos-my-daddy/#comment-2570</link>
		<dc:creator>Emma</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 May 2012 01:35:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Lisa, while I agree with you broadly on a number of points (that the rights of the child are paramount, the need to improve the rights of fathers, the need for better enforcement of fathers&#039; responsibilities) I do think you are too quick to dismiss the dangerous and violent situations some women find themselves in.

The CSO reports 480 rapes in 2010 (male and female). The Dublin Rape Crisis Centre estimates that 83% of those raped are female, with around 80% being of childbearing age. This would give rise to a figure of 319 women of childbearing age who were raped in 2010. The DRRC alone supported 25 women who became pregnant following rape in 2010. That is only the Dublin area, so the figure could probably be doubled for the rest of the country.

Now consider that rape is one of the most under reported crimes there is. The Gardaí estimate that only 1 in 4 crimes is reported. For rape, it is estimated that anything up to 95% go unreported. Which suggests that there could be anywhere from 200 to 1000 children born each year in Ireland as a result of rape.*

In your blog, you mention the estimated number of children who do not have fathers named on their birth certs is around 4000. I do not doubt that some fathers are not named in order to benefit the mother and father. This violates the rights of the child, although those rights are not as yet recognised in the law. However, it must be recognised that a significant number of fathers will not be named because they are unknown, whether that is due to rape or casual relationships. And another significant number will remain unnamed in order to protect the child from potential harm. 

It is this last group, potentially 25% of the &#039;problem group&#039; in question, who must be prioritised when this proposed legislation is being discussed. Only 7% of rape cases result in convictions. This is 7% of possibly only 5% of all rapes. Some women do not know who the father of their child is, some do and live in fear of repeat attacks or of the father attempting to lay claim to a resulting child. I would not want a rapist having any claim to my child. I doubt anyone would. 

This law could potentially criminalise women who either do not know who the father is or who fear naming the father. It is a misogynistic piece of legislation and much of the debate surrounding it harks back to a time not so distant when single mothers were locked up in laundries for the sin of falling pregnant. 

Those who debate the laws and who form legislation tend to do so from a position of privilege. It is essential that our privilege does not obliterate our empathy for those in situations much harsher than our own. There is too much demonisation of the powerless in this country. Welfare fraud is spoken of as a drain on public finances when it has been proven that fraud is actually quite insignificant in comparison to the mistakes and wastages caused by SW administrators, and is nothing at all compared to the tax fraud perpetuated by the wealthy in society.

I know you hesitated before writing this post and I apologise for this comment being so long, but I would hope to cause you to pause once more before writing off all 4000 women with &#039;fatherless&#039; children as cheats or frauds. Each one has a story to tell and has a reason for leaving that form blank. Some reasons may be dishonest, but many will be heartbreaking. Legislating those reasons into criminal acts is simply wrong.


*I can&#039;t post the links but all of these figures are available from the 2010 reports on the websites of the CSO, the DRCC and the Gardaí. </description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Lisa, while I agree with you broadly on a number of points (that the rights of the child are paramount, the need to improve the rights of fathers, the need for better enforcement of fathers&#8217; responsibilities) I do think you are too quick to dismiss the dangerous and violent situations some women find themselves in.</p>
<p>The CSO reports 480 rapes in 2010 (male and female). The Dublin Rape Crisis Centre estimates that 83% of those raped are female, with around 80% being of childbearing age. This would give rise to a figure of 319 women of childbearing age who were raped in 2010. The DRRC alone supported 25 women who became pregnant following rape in 2010. That is only the Dublin area, so the figure could probably be doubled for the rest of the country.</p>
<p>Now consider that rape is one of the most under reported crimes there is. The Gardaí estimate that only 1 in 4 crimes is reported. For rape, it is estimated that anything up to 95% go unreported. Which suggests that there could be anywhere from 200 to 1000 children born each year in Ireland as a result of rape.*</p>
<p>In your blog, you mention the estimated number of children who do not have fathers named on their birth certs is around 4000. I do not doubt that some fathers are not named in order to benefit the mother and father. This violates the rights of the child, although those rights are not as yet recognised in the law. However, it must be recognised that a significant number of fathers will not be named because they are unknown, whether that is due to rape or casual relationships. And another significant number will remain unnamed in order to protect the child from potential harm. </p>
<p>It is this last group, potentially 25% of the &#8216;problem group&#8217; in question, who must be prioritised when this proposed legislation is being discussed. Only 7% of rape cases result in convictions. This is 7% of possibly only 5% of all rapes. Some women do not know who the father of their child is, some do and live in fear of repeat attacks or of the father attempting to lay claim to a resulting child. I would not want a rapist having any claim to my child. I doubt anyone would. </p>
<p>This law could potentially criminalise women who either do not know who the father is or who fear naming the father. It is a misogynistic piece of legislation and much of the debate surrounding it harks back to a time not so distant when single mothers were locked up in laundries for the sin of falling pregnant. </p>
<p>Those who debate the laws and who form legislation tend to do so from a position of privilege. It is essential that our privilege does not obliterate our empathy for those in situations much harsher than our own. There is too much demonisation of the powerless in this country. Welfare fraud is spoken of as a drain on public finances when it has been proven that fraud is actually quite insignificant in comparison to the mistakes and wastages caused by SW administrators, and is nothing at all compared to the tax fraud perpetuated by the wealthy in society.</p>
<p>I know you hesitated before writing this post and I apologise for this comment being so long, but I would hope to cause you to pause once more before writing off all 4000 women with &#8216;fatherless&#8217; children as cheats or frauds. Each one has a story to tell and has a reason for leaving that form blank. Some reasons may be dishonest, but many will be heartbreaking. Legislating those reasons into criminal acts is simply wrong.</p>
<p>*I can&#8217;t post the links but all of these figures are available from the 2010 reports on the websites of the CSO, the DRCC and the Gardaí. </p>
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		<title>Comment on Seaside fun from Vintage Kids by Circus Queen</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/seaside-fun-from-vintage-kids/#comment-2565</link>
		<dc:creator>Circus Queen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 18 May 2012 20:33:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>These are so cute! I love the shapes they make in the sand. Very pretty. Talitha would have just filled it up with water and had a soapy drink.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>These are so cute! I love the shapes they make in the sand. Very pretty. Talitha would have just filled it up with water and had a soapy drink.<br />
<span class="cluv">Circus Queen recently posted..<a class="3e0528eb1a 2565" rel="nofollow" href="http://circusqueen.co.uk/2012/05/follow-the-rainbow/">Follow the rainbow</a><span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip u 2565" alt="My Profile" style="border:0" width="16" height="14" src="http://mama.ie/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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		<title>Comment on Wednesday Window: Volcanic Ventures by Circus Queen</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/wednesday-window-volcanic-ventures/#comment-2564</link>
		<dc:creator>Circus Queen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 18 May 2012 20:30:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>That looks like so much fun! I can&#039;t wait until mine is old enough to do stuff like this. We made a volcano once when I was younger - with cement. My mum must&#039;ve been mental.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>That looks like so much fun! I can&#8217;t wait until mine is old enough to do stuff like this. We made a volcano once when I was younger &#8211; with cement. My mum must&#8217;ve been mental.<br />
<span class="cluv">Circus Queen recently posted..<a class="1ff292884b 2564" rel="nofollow" href="http://circusqueen.co.uk/2012/05/running-for-love-win-a-bottle-of-english-sparkling-wine/">Running for love: Win a bottle of English sparkling wine</a><span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip u 2564" alt="My Profile" style="border:0" width="16" height="14" src="http://mama.ie/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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		<title>Comment on Wednesday Window: Volcanic Ventures by Lisa &#124; Mama.ie</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/wednesday-window-volcanic-ventures/#comment-2549</link>
		<dc:creator>Lisa &#124; Mama.ie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 17 May 2012 12:46:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hoping to get it finished this weekend Kerry - and judging by the rain outside right now, we&#039;ll be glad of a few arts and crafts projects to keep us busy!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hoping to get it finished this weekend Kerry &#8211; and judging by the rain outside right now, we&#8217;ll be glad of a few arts and crafts projects to keep us busy!<br />
<span class="cluv">Lisa | Mama.ie recently posted..<a class="57fb46cf9d 2549" rel="nofollow" href="http://mama.ie/entertaining-a-toddler/">Entertaining a toddler</a><span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip u 2549" alt="My Profile" style="border:0" width="16" height="14" src="http://mama.ie/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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		<title>Comment on Wednesday Window: Volcanic Ventures by Kerry</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/wednesday-window-volcanic-ventures/#comment-2548</link>
		<dc:creator>Kerry</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 17 May 2012 11:59:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh can&#039;t wait to see the finished result! Looking good! xx</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh can&#8217;t wait to see the finished result! Looking good! xx<br />
<span class="cluv">Kerry recently posted..<a class="d5b999147d 2548" rel="nofollow" href="http://andthenallithoughtaboutwasyou.com/2012/05/weddings/">Weddings!</a><span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip u 2548" alt="My Profile" style="border:0" width="16" height="14" src="http://mama.ie/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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		<title>Comment on Wednesday Window: Rainbows and Butterflies by Wednesday Window: Volcanic Ventures &#124; Mama.ie</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/wednesday-window-rainbows-and-butterflies/#comment-2543</link>
		<dc:creator>Wednesday Window: Volcanic Ventures &#124; Mama.ie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 May 2012 07:00:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] Window: Volcanic Ventures   I&#8217;ve come to accept that I&#8217;ll never be wordless and I&#8217;ll never manage a true Wordless Wednesday post, so I&#8217;ve introduced my Wednesday [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] Window: Volcanic Ventures   I&#8217;ve come to accept that I&#8217;ll never be wordless and I&#8217;ll never manage a true Wordless Wednesday post, so I&#8217;ve introduced my Wednesday [...]</p>
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		<title>Comment on Entertaining a toddler by Ellie at Emerald Pie</title>
		<link>http://mama.ie/entertaining-a-toddler/#comment-2536</link>
		<dc:creator>Ellie at Emerald Pie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 15 May 2012 14:30:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Yes, definitely a case of keeping the parents occupied.  Admit it now, it was always a dream of yours to build a volcano!  ;D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yes, definitely a case of keeping the parents occupied.  Admit it now, it was always a dream of yours to build a volcano!  ;D<br />
<span class="cluv">Ellie at Emerald Pie recently posted..<a class="7bb6987033 2536" rel="nofollow" href="http://emeraldpie.wordpress.com/2012/05/07/another-rice-mess-you-got-me-into/">Another Rice Mess You Got Me Into</a><span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip u 2536" alt="My Profile" style="border:0" width="16" height="14" src="http://mama.ie/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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		<title>Comment on So much for old wives&#8217; tales by Lisa &#124; Mama.ie</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lisa &#124; Mama.ie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 14 May 2012 11:09:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I feel for you! We have dealt with a lot of teething pain in this house. Thankfully the end is in sight for us now, with only the molars left. I&#039;ll be glad when they&#039;ve all grown in!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I feel for you! We have dealt with a lot of teething pain in this house. Thankfully the end is in sight for us now, with only the molars left. I&#8217;ll be glad when they&#8217;ve all grown in!</p>
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